This course turns things around for parents very quickly. Many parents struggle to understand their kid’s behaviour and try to find ways to change it which is one of the reasons behaviour gets worse! When parents develop an understanding of who they are parenting (and every child is different), they become much more effective with their approaches.
Sidestepping also challenges people to abandon outdated, primitive methods of parenting. Waiting until you are angry and unable to think clearly to address important issues in any relationship is ineffective. Instead, in this course, you will develop a creative, intelligent approach that will not only promote cooperation (rather than fearful obedience) but make you feel good… and that… matters, because guilty parenting does not support healthy boundaries. Could it be that parents feeling calm and confident creates the fertile soil that allows for growth?
When you take this course you quickly figure out how you might be preventing your child from becoming responsible, resilient and caring. You will be given tools and insights that you can refer to regardless of your child’s age. These concepts are not for any specific age group because they represent the rules of the social order that apply to everyone.
One more thing. If you and your partner can’t agree on parenting then you should both take this course. Get in the same chapter! If you are reluctant to do this and don’t think a course is for you then do something! Parents not agreeing or undermining each other (whether together or not) is damaging to kids. If childminding is a problem then alternate weeks. The courses have extensive written weekly materials that can be read by the absent parent. One parent teaching the other parenting skills doesn’t work!
Eight week evening classes include LIFE Leaders who assist you to apply the material to your life.
Returning parents can attend free of charge at the Wednesday night venue. Contact LIFE Seminars to secure your seat. You must show us proof that you took the course previously either an old email or receipt with your name on it.
The material from The Parent Child Connection is deep. Allison will discuss things in this course that you may never have thought about let alone discussed. It is the what you didn’t know you didn’t know course! Yet, when you hear the subjects, it will feel familiar because it relates to all of us and our patterns of behaviour. Perhaps you have read a lot of books, that is great, taking a course can deepen your learning.
Ineffective communication by adults is the root cause of aggression, rebellion and low self-esteem in our kids. It is just that simple. There are listening and speaking don’ts and listening and speaking do’s. Discover them. Many parents think they disagree about limits but it is usually about how the limits are set and the words we use that cause concern. Communication can create emotional safety that allows for growth or it can intrude on the healthy development of a self. You choose.
As the course moves forward, parents learn conflict resolution and coaching skills. Of course this information applies to all relationships. Developing knowledge of feelings and needs is life changing! Conflict will no longer be a win/loose or fight to the finish. This course helps parents develop the reflective pause that can turn chaos into calm.
Finally, Allison digs into boundaries. We all have blind spots. Some of us are over-controlling but we are so loving with our control that it might be hard to pinpoint. Messy boundaries are not about a lack of love, love actually isn’t the issue. Intrusiveness can appear to be supportive, but it isn’t. Over-protection can appear to be caring, but it isn’t. Indulgence can feel loving, but it’s not... Once we see healthy boundaries there is no turning back and if we do take that step back, we figure it out. We all grow by taking two steps forward, one step back!
Self-esteem is not making your child feel that they are special or better than. As a matter of fact, the love of being ordinary is the foundation for living an extraordinary life. You might be surprised to hear how we inadvertently contribute to low self-esteem in our kids. Knowing this matters and will boost your self-esteem too.
Here are some of the topics which will be discussed:
Successful Communication – The Power of Words and How to Use Them, The Spirit of Listening, Working Through Issues and Conflicts, Emotion Coaching.
Where are the Boundaries? – Where the Parent Ends and the Child Begins
Assertive Parents – Assertive Kids, The Deeper Meaning of Discipline.
Relationship Building – Developing Emotional Intelligence, When Getting Closer Means Letting Go, Self-Esteem in Parent – Self-Esteem in Child
Parents Having Different Parenting Styles
How to Solve Disagreements and Family Decision Making
Preschoolers is one of the main age groups discussed in Sidestepping the Power Struggle so take that course rather than waiting for the next Preschoolers course.
Preschoolers present some bewildering behaviors in both parent and child! Who prepared you for this experience and how many people do think are sitting in the sidelines judging your parenting skills? Our children’s temperaments are on high gear during the preschool years and understanding their behavior is the most important part of parenting at this time. This workshop will focus on behavior, expectations, and strategies to deal with daily issues such as mealtime, bedtime and getting out of the house in one piece.kidincar
Taking one of the eight week courses as a follow up has certain advantages such as a longer period of time to learn, support from the many group leaders and the opportunity to come back free of charge many times over. Material from LIFE with a Preschooler is reviewed in these courses as well as additional material to take your parenting to an even deeper level.
At some point your teen will fire you as the general contractor of his or her life. Somehow you need to get hired back on as a consultant. While we know this is a stage, it can be a heartbreaking one as the relationship we have with them changes. They can go through all kinds of natural learning with "the world out there" and somehow we have to support them as they go through this. We learn that the only thing we have control over is our own responses. Punishment or confronting a teen with any aggression can turn things sideways. It simply doesn’t work, as much as we feel like going there at times!
The other side to this is that a parent might be the one person on the planet who can help a teen develop effective strategies to get their needs met. We can validate their desire for independence, belonging, freedom and so on while negotiating what this can look like. This is what keeps them safe and keeps our relationship in place.
Finally, this class will challenge you to refocus on your needs too. Limit setting is about the needs of all involved. Where are those lines? What boundaries need to be maintained? What directly affects you and actually matters to you?
Profound and practical, this two evening seminar will give you the insight and tools you need to parent your teen effectively. For longer support on this subject, take the Wednesday evening courses: Sidestepping the Power Struggle or The Parent Child Connection, offered in October and February.
Taking one of the eight week courses as a follow up has certain advantages such as a longer period of time to learn, support from the many group leaders and the opportunity to come back free of charge many times over.
This is a course for couples (of any kind) who are committed to growth within their relationship. Intimate relationships have the potential to facilitate personal growth in a way that allows us to explore our monkey business. You know, that part of yourself that keeps you small, stuck or incredibly annoying. It will shine a light on typical relationship patterns that get couples into trouble. Developing awareness of patterns is the key to unlock emotional freedom within the relationship. Of course no couple’s course is complete without communication skill building. Yet, communication goes beyond skills because how you speak represents who you are. Knowing this means that you can use vocabulary as a vehicle for growth… growth, not manipulation so that means ownership of your feelings and needs sets the course for your own personal individuation.
Relationship Patterns, Faulty Thinking and The Four Horseman of the Apocalypse (Gottman)
Emotions and How They Operate.
Communication: Listening, Speaking and Taking Turns
Learning how to express yourself safely and effectively
How to Solve Disagreements and Family Decision Making
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This workshop encourages teachers to take a deeper look at children to see what lies underneath their behaviour. Allison has worked extensively with teachers and EA’s examining subjects such as:
Children’s Unique Temperaments – What are the challenges, what are the gifts? Understand who is in front of you. When you can articulate various traits, it opens a door to understanding a child’s triggers. Antecedent (triggers) management is key to offering true support to kids. Allison will provide teachers with an analysis sheet to help them identify triggers that might be interfering with a student’s learning.
Communication is likely the most powerful tool for offering support to kids or not. Poor communication can create resistance, promote aggression and be a major source of discouragement for kids…this includes how we praise children. Learning the skills of an effective communicator facilitates emotional safety for kids. When this happens, children can open themselves to hearing feedback without it discouraging them or affecting their sense of self.
Coaching Kids. In order to promote resilience in children, we have to strengthen their confidence to solve problems. Too often kids are told they are making poor choices… this paralyzes kids. Instead, involve kids by pulling out their ideas. Collaborative problem solving engages them, creates cooperation and promotes a sense of importance, belonging and integrity. One antidote for anxiety is using the part of your brain that problem solves rather than staying stuck in the primitive, survival part of the brain.
Allison will facilitate practical coaching skills that can be used as peer support for teachers as well. This can take staff meetings to a more productive place.
Time permitting, other topics can be covered such as…how to help children deal with their peers. Many kids act aggressive because they don’t know what else to say or do. Becoming aware of confident body language, developing snappy comebacks, and learning to growl not bite are part of this subject. Also, many kids react in ways that make bugging more entertaining. Kids are mostly parented by kind, loving people and so it can be a shock to them when they have to deal with their peers who, because they are kids, are egocentric and unable to speak in a way that is always kind. This is a Given of childhood and is for the most part, out of our control because we can’t make kids just hurry up and mature! What we can do is help them cope and better yet, rise up to the challenge.
48 hours notice is required for a reimbursement of your course fee minus a service charge of 20%. We can also credit your seat for the next course regardless of the notice given.
Free returning seats can be accessed if you have taken the evening course in the last five years. The venue where the returning seats are offered is only at the Wednesday Evening classes held at Spectrum Community School, where we have the room. We allow ten returning seats per course so let us know early.
Our goal is to empower parents and professionals through our educational courses, workshops, books, and articles. These courses are for all aged kids but more so for all families.
Many people describe LIFE Seminars as life changing and as having a tremendous positive impact on future generations.
There is nothing quite like having a seasoned professional present and answer your questions, compared to prepackaged programs.
As a seasoned professional, she takes the subject of parenting to a deeper level than mainstream programs.
Allison Rees has been teaching LIFE Seminars courses since 1993. Countless parents and Web Head Shot Warm (2)professionals attend these popular courses in Victoria through word of mouth alone. LIFE Seminars has become one of the largest and longest running parenting programs in the world running for over 30 years with an average of 100 parents attending each eight week course.
Allison’s presentations are down to earth, honest and to the point. Lectures are packed with insights, humour and rich interactions with the audience. While her subjects are pre-planned, her lectures are not which is why people don’t tire of the material when they repeat the courses. She has supported thousands of families in this community and is rapidly expanding her knowledge to other professionals worldwide.
"Excellent information, well presented…funny and open."
"Love her, I feel like she’s been in my house. Would love to hear more from her."
"Sometimes it feels no matter what one says or does is wrong! She gives one a new perspective. "
"I learned different words to use with kids. I want more, time flew by."
"Allison Rees was fantastic! I would love to hear more seminars by her. She was a great speaker, engaging, funny and super knowledgeable."
"I have heard about Allison from colleagues and she did not disappoint. She is engaging and interesting."
"Allison is a good and loving presenter. She is easy to hear and understand. If we had more time I would like to have small groups to practice techniques."
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